Flowers have been chosen for centuries to express certain emotions. For many people bringing flowers to funeral is an essential way to express their feelings. The choice is up to you, but care should be taken to ensure the flowers express the appropriate message.

When you want to honor the bereaved with flowers, two things should be considered when choosing. First, choose flowers that would have pleased the deceased. Thus, a bouquet with the deceased’s favorite flowers can be a sign of appreciation.

Secondly, the individual messages of the flowers should be noted. These can vary from place to place.
In addition to the deceased’s favorite flowers, flowers can be taken for burial with a very special message.

For the next of kin, a flower that serves as a forget-me-not, which, as the name already suggests, is against forgetting and thus for the eternal memory can be chosen. A rose flower can be used to express your love and affection for the dead. This flower also stands for the beauty of life.
Other types of flowers that are commonly used to show condolence include the Calla, which stands for “the resurrection,” the lily, which symbolizes honor, and the carnation which stands for love and friendship.

The color of the flowers you choose matters.
In many societies, death is very strongly associated with grief. No wonder dark clothes dominate many funerals because black symbolizes sadness and death. The flowers at a funeral are often used to lighten the mood. Thus, they should contrast the dark-coloured clothes. However, colorful bouquets are rarely used but recommended bright colors, such as white or cream-colored lilies, roses or Callas.

In many areas of life dress code has changed radically in the recent years. However, the dress code for funerals hasn’t changed much over the years.
When choosing to clothe for a funeral note that despite your preferences the occasion is not about you but about paying respect to the deceased through appropriate clothing and appropriate behavior.

The grieving relatives are also appreciative when they see that a guest has carefully chosen his clothes for the memorial service or funeral. This also shows that your concerns were shoved aside due to the unfortunate occasion.

Wearing Black at funerals

Black or other shades of dark color is still the most common and appropriate choice. Black is seen as a sign of mourning and is therefore appropriate for a funeral. Also, shoes, stockings and ties
should have dark tones.

The shirt or blouse under the jacket may be white as a contrast. Headgear such as baseball hats, short sleeves and shorts should be avoided. Also on the wearing of jeans should be waived.

Dress code for Children

Mourning clothing for children should also be appropriate for the occasion. Usually, children are not expected to buy black clothing for the funeral. Discreet or muted colors are still applicable. This means that even for children, bright colors and funny prints should be avoided.

Wearing jewelry at a funeral

In general, the maxim at funerals is: less is more. The bereaved relatives can regard striking or colorful jewelry as an unwanted expression of self. It is, therefore, advisable to use simple and subtle jewelry.

Make-up and hairstyles can also be worn discreetly. Best for a funeral is an inconspicuous day make-up and a well-groomed hairstyle.
In some instances, the mourners clothe themselves colorfully at a funeral. This is usually the case when the deceased has expressly desired this during his lifetime.
If the deceased was a member of a club or a uniform in his professional life, clubmates or colleagues would often wear them to the funeral. This expresses the respect and the attachment to the dead, while at the same time portraying their passion.

Eulogies are often held at a memorial service to honor the deceased and to reawaken positive memories of the departed. This provides relatives and friends with the opportunity to say goodbye to the dead peacefully.
Depending on where the memorial service takes place and whether it is secular or religious, a funeral eulogy can be given by a pastor, an orator or even by a family member.
A eulogy is one of the hardest speeches to write. This is especially true for people who have no practice in writing such.
A eulogy can contain not only personal descriptions of the deceased, such as interesting stories from his life but also quotes. Frequently, religious texts are used, such as biblical quotations. But secular texts, such as from the literature can also be used.
Generally, the structure of a eulogy includes:

• Salutations/Welcome greetings
• Introduction – cause of death, relationship with the deceased, or citations of the deceased
• Body – Anecdotes, Characteristics, Hobbies / Engagements
• Closing

The message should be positive and a representation of the deceased’s strengths. Weaknesses can also be mentioned – however, it is advisable to present them lightly and humorously.
Possible contents of the funeral speech:

• What kind of person was the deceased?
• Impact of the deceased on the life of those alive
• What was the deceased proud of?
• Special experiences with the deceased
• What did you learn from the deceased?
• What did he give you?
• What will you miss most about the deceased?

A eulogy can give hope and bring comfort by sharing positive stories from the life of the deceased. Additionally, it commemorates and remembers the deceased. In the end, an excellently written eulogy can be emotionally relieving.